court certified batterer intervention and anger management ​programs for Santa Barbara County 


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Skills Techniques Options Plans is a client-centered and evidence-based curriculum to treat domestic violence offenders. Developed and field-tested for over twenty-five years among military and civilian populations internationally, the program offers therapists, social workers, and other counselors sound, psychologically-based interventions.

The curriculum addresses the effect of trauma on domestic violence, survivor guilt, the use of mindfulness and gratitude’s, and intimacy training—as well as a supplementary program that integrates a substance abuse focus into treatment. The curriculum is a 26-week psycho-educational format which includes skills, training exercises, articles, video clips, handouts, homework, and other resources that push participants to examine the role of shame and aggression and provide tools to manage the powerful relationship issues with which they struggle.

The STOP Program reflects the ongoing integration of new research, creative interventions, and trial-and-error. Below the sessions include the following themes:

  • Effect of trauma on domestic violence (specifically several new interventions focusing on the PTSD/DV connection)
  • Imaginary Crimes, Survivor Guilt, and Domestic Violence
  • “Hostile Interpretations” (based on research about aggressive and criminogenic attitudes)
  • Guidelines for “Good Men”
  • Mindfulness & Gratitude’s (based on contemporary research about generating positive affect and attitude
  • Intimacy Training (several new sessions with new skills for empathy, revealing personal information, etc., including The NEW Relationship Respect Contract)

Video clips and articles have been added to generate structured discussions about specific topics. Based on innovative new trends in treating substance abuse issues concurrently with domestic violence, a supplementary program to integrate a “Level II” substance abuse focus on domestic violence treatment, when indicated.

About the Author

David B. Wexler, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Diego, specializing in the treatment of relationships in conflict. He is the Executive Director of the non-profit Relationship Training Institute, which provides education and treatment internationally for relationship development and the prevention and treatment of relationship violence. He has also served as the Clinical and Administrative Supervisor for the NIMH-sponsored research study of domestic violence in the Navy from 1991 through 1996, and again from 2001 through 2006.


David B. Wexler, Ph.D